I had my first incident with a mother. Now a little back round to said person.. she complains about EVERYTHING. She complained because the nice couple who lived next to her, did not wash their windows. She complained because the garden across from her was not tidy enough,she complains about other children.
But the one thing that she doesn’t complain about but should,is her and her own negativity. The way she makes people feel about themselves and how standing around and gossiping about people on the street really makes them feel not very good inside. I think that people who do complain about things and who do gossip, are lacking in their own self confidence and take it out on other people who are happy and want to be content in what they do and who they are. No one is perfect and maybe our garden’s are not the tidiest or we do make choices that she wouldn’t necessarily agree with but to make people feel that they are “scum” as she once referred to someone on the street, is totally inappropriate.
Back to the story … Her children who are 3 years older than Thunderpants and a few other girls, decided that they didn’t want to play with her. They called her over and then would run away resulting in her crying. This is not on. Husband knocked on their door and the response was nothing . I said that the girls weren’t welcome for a while because you don’t treat a 4year old who looks up to the older girls, like that. Since this incident, we have been ignored, spoken about and the eldest of her children is sneering at us and being cheeky.
Why , in this day and age , can things not be resolved in an adult manner? I thought that I could approach her and with all of the so called “morals” that said woman likes to boast about that she instills, surely she could understand where we were coming from? Evidently not. Its really sad because she has many times, been offered support after a few incidents involving local boys and I actually felt sorry for her in what she was going through. But now I wonder how much she actually creates for herself? Her daughter has often said that local kids have been bullying her? This is the same daughter who is using this same behaviors towards other people and I have witnessed it on many occasions from her two other siblings as well.
I want to avoid confrontation on this matter and deal with it appropriately without my temper getting the better of me but I fear that I will say something that I may regret and I am not like that. My emotions are up to high doe and I just wish i knew how to deal with this…. Any ideas?