Today Thunderpants and I went to the fort this afternoon and on our way home as we were listening to her CD-Justin Bieber(I know, you don’t have to say it), she asked me how her Daddy and I became boyfriend and girlfriend as well as asking how he and I agreed to have a baby and get married.
I told her how we had met when I was working at the Odeon(RIP) on Reinfield street when I was a student and that her Uncle B was my boss and had introduced us etc. I also said that we had gotten pregnant before her and that we lost that baby which made us realise how much we had wanted to be parents and that she was made from that decision and of course out of love.After a bottle of cava…
She then said to me “what about if I don’t get a husband”? I said, well that’s OK cause not everyone gets married or you may get a wife. She said “Like the ladies at the museum”? and I said “Yes”. We had gone to Kelvingrove Museum at Christmas and there is an exhibit celebrating same sex marriage and this had obviously stuck in her mind. I think if she is old enough to ask questions that she is old enough to get an answer. Also, I have a lot of friends who are gay/bi etc and I see no reason for her not to know, its just as much part of life as being heterosexual.
Her father though, asked me “We should consider the school that she is at” (a Catholic school ), I don’t believe that we should because A) I am a recovering catholic and B) they don’t consider the thousands of people that they have shunned, offended etc. I know he is thinking of her, he also doesn’t see peoples sexuality as an issue(as it shouldn’t be) but it still did bother me.
I know some parents are going to wonder why I explained this as she is only 5, I got the same reaction when I posted about being honest when it came time to discuss suicide but it is my choice and right , as a parent to do this. I feel a child who knows the truth, will be more informed and more accepting of things in society which have stigma attached to it. She already knows that i had PND and although she may not completely know what mental ill health is, I’m always around if she wants to talk about it.
How do you all deal as parents, with issues which are considered “taboo”? Would be interested in hearing!