Ok, So in the day that I have been away from Facebook and Twitter, I have looked through Pinterest! Bloody hell, I’m replacing one addiction for another. Not really, I assure you and I promise. Thunderpants and I were looking on the Christmas section because our annual Christmas BBQ is coming up where we have our friends over and their kids, a bonfire in the back garden and food prepared. Last year we put a projector up, and showed Home alone, Elf and a few other Christmas movies for kids and the adults.I fucking love Christmas.
As we were browsing for ideas, both for cooking, crafts and decoration ideas I came across a “Random Thoughts of Kindness” Pin board and website (http://tsjphotography.com/blog/random-acts-of-christmas-kindness-summary/) … Where you can do things like put extra change in a parking meter , things like that and it started me thinking about our street and how there isn’t that much in the way of community spirit for one reason or another. Then the idea dawned on me…. with the help of a friend and I am awaiting her call…. What if her and I made up a little package which wouldn’t cost anything to make, or a note to put on someone’s window of car with encouraging words and just try to brighten up someone’s day?
I know what you’re thinking shes a “goody goody” etc why would you do that? , Well for those who do read my blog, you know I’m a sarcastic bitch, am bat shit crazy,I’m the least likely to do something like this..I moan and complain about everything and rant.. ALOT. I agree that it is a crazy idea blah blah blah BUT, someone might be having a bad day, feeling lonely, not have many around them, people could just need some cheering up. I am not religious, I am not doing it for any personal gain, I don’t want people to know its me (well why blog about it?) I am blogging cause people around here won’t know of my blog and therefore they won’t connect it to me 🙂 There is one person in particular who I want to write a letter to who doesn’t live on my street or in my community but lives near my husbands parents. I know she’s had an incredibly difficult time raising kids who unfortunately are drug users, and despite everything that she has gone through, she smiles and takes the time to ask how you’re doing. I don’t want to divulge too much as that wouldn’t be fair but this woman deserves to know that she is amazing. So maybe there will be an extension to the local community.
I am so excited about it and I really hope that it doesn’t sounds nuts (so hope they don’t feel that they are being stalked neither), this could be one of my most fucked up ideas to date but I want to do it, I am thankful for the family and friends that I have and although not assuming that the people on my street don’t have that too, its just nice to know that it could make someone smile especially as Christmas can be a difficult time of year for some. I will update on what ideas we come up with and I will try and post some pics too
What do y’all think? Crazy or not so crazy?
Whether or not we like them … we all usually have to live in one, right? Unfortunately money dictates as to what community we find our selves in and the issues affecting the people.
I was thinking about my own community and how there isn’t really much of a feeling within ours. This is our first flat that allowed us to get on to the property ladder and at times, I wish we had just continued renting but then other times, I am thankful for the friendships that I have gained through being here.
We had problems when we first moved in with the neighbors and unfortunately both were not brought up to respect other people and played music quite loudly at different times during the day , or night and whenever they felt it was necessary to do so. As both my husband and I worked this created issues especially when we were trying to sleep or when I was trying to study. When taking the kind approach and speaking to them, it didn’t make any difference and I had to resort to police intervention, mediation and contacting the local MP. I was even threatened at one point and we often stayed at hotels at the weekend as we knew that we wouldn’t get peace. it was a hellish time adn I was ready to walk away for something that we had worked so hard for. but we didn’t.
When you are the only home owner within 4 houses, it was almost as though we were penalized for actually making an effort in life and trying to get ahead. but then I started to try to see things from their points of view and that ok, they didn’t have the same upbringing as I did and it may not have occurred to them what they were doing because they didn’t know any better.
It is easy for me to get angry, upset and want revenge but isn’t it better to try to help those who haven’t been lucky enough to have the best start in life and have always been either called benefit scroungers, ned’s or anything else? Is there not a reason as to why we act the way that we do? Surely people are not born so angry and treating others with the respect that you expect and trying to talk things through would be better than adding to the already fragile situation? People don’t always know what things have happened in other’s lives but maybe if we try to understand and help them with change, that there would be better ways in dealing with sitautions that we find ourselves in?
I’m not saying that just because someone has had a bad start in life , that we should excuse their behavior, not at all in any way shape or form as people MUST take responsibility for themselves and stop blaming but having options and genuine people on hand to help might be one of the better solutions? Call me crazy and maybe I am but I would love for community spirit to come back and for people to know and appreciate their neighbors again… have people come together? Where did community spirit go and why don’t we know the person next to us? I’m not saying we have to socialise or anything like that, but to know that you can say hi or have that conversation in the summer… maybe its all just wishful thinking….