18 for 2018 – Inspired by Gretchen Rubino

I have a few books written by Gretchen Reuben, 1 was purchased on my kindle and the other in Toronto Airport when we were awaiting our flight back to Glasgow after being home. I love what she does and says, her Podcasts are so inspiring but the main thing is that they are easy to understand and incorporate into your life without really thinking about it too much but that the results are really life changing.

I’m not so much into New Year resolutions because I think that if you want to make change, it should be an ongoing process and not waiting for the 1st of January to do it. If you really have something in life that you want to do, if you can put all of your effort into it, I do believe that it is well within your reach. If you set your mind to something whether it be small to someone but of major significance to you, the end result will be empowering and with empowerment comes achievement, yes?

So what is this thing that I am banging on about? Its Gretchin’s 18 for 2018 and its all about achieving 18 things throughout the year that mean something to you and has a positive impact on your life. The 18 things can be anything and it an take as long as it takes, but within the next 12 months… I don’t think that 18 thing are really hat difficult and it may mean writing another list but I’ll concentrate on my first and see how I get on.

When thinking about this, I wanted to make small achievable goals because this isn’t about adding more stress to an already stressful existence! Its something that I can do and think or write about whenever and wherever… Something to be proud of and something that will impact me and possibly others around me. So where do I start? Well….

I read something on social media this week which was quite powerful and made me think a lot about certain situations that I have found myself in very recently.

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So this is one of the things that I want to really concentrate on in 2018.. I am very hot headed and I generally react by shouting and getting angry. In order for me to stop reacting in an angry matter, I need to step back, think about all aspects , who is involved, impact of my anger and breathe.

Breathing is the key to all life.

A lot of this first goal is about my daughter and some stuff that she is going through. She lost her Nanna very suddenly and she is currently going through the “anger” part of the grieving process but through this we also think that there may be something a bit more underlying.When she gets angry, I react in the same way, we say things that we regret , the tears flow and there is a constant atmosphere which is affecting everyone here and even the dog. So I must learn to breathe first and react second. It’s very hard.

2. Walking at least 5 miles a day. This was something that I was achieving before Christmas but after having a small operation 3 weeks ago, that stopped and I can see how much it has impacted my moods and my eating habits. The dog is also suffering because she was really enjoying her long walks and now she is only getting out to the park across the street and smaller walks. That’s not fair. I also want to get my daughter into this with me so I guess there is two parts to this goal! I think it will help improve her moods and her fitness.

3. I want to use my gym membership more and go to at least 2 early morning classes a week. I love getting up before everyone, getting my workout done and be back in time to get the kids off to nursery and school and then the dog walked. I feel I get much more done on these days and although I am all for self care and looking after yourself, my own mental health is better when I am organized.

4. Concentrate on growing my business. I love what I do and I have a good client base but I feel like I need to be more organised and reign in a lot of things as my head is a scatty mess. I need to re design leaflets, find out exactly which therapies out of all of the ones that I do, are my favorite ones and just do them. I know that aromatherapy is one at the top of my list as is pregnancy and when I do these, I get lost in them. I am also dabbling with making stuff with the oils but that can come at a later date.

5. Making time for friends. This can be done in different ways as we all have such different lifestyles, work schedules, and demands. I am going to diarise dates with those who are able to do so and make an effort to even catch up with others via skype or facetime – this is generally for friends an family on the other side of the world.

6. Paying off at least 2 of my credit cards by the summer. This is achievable because I can do overtime when the kids are sleeping or by using my other income as a Complementary Therapist. I would like to say that I am lucky to have these two outlets but to be fair, I trained and studied and all of that was achieved via hard wor. The over time think is lucky but again, I am qualified enough to have a job where over time is available and that’s down to my own skills that I learned and invested in. The other skill that I have is blogging and although I have only just picked it up gain after a long break, I know that I can be consistent and pick up the ol sponsored post if I want to. I can also make some money via selling things on eBay and I started just before Christmas, the money went towards a credit card and in one week with combining all the above apart from massage, I put £65 towards a card. How good is that?

7. Entering Competitions .. its become a new hobby that I picked up on my quest to save money and become debt free. I was also inspired by a film that I watched which was a true story. Now, please note that I am under no illusion hat I will win very much and that’s ok. Like I say, its a hobby 🙂 Its simply a hobby and its something that is distracting for me after the kids have gone to bed.

8. Not accepting the negative behaviors of others , this kind of ties in with number 1 . Something happened over the Christmas holidays and it was quite hurtful to me although those involved probably didn’t even know that it had such an impact.. I don’t want to go into it and I have made adjustments to how interaction will be from now on. There was one other situation where I felt that someone in my life was always contacting me when they needed to vent. At first I was angry as I wasn’t being asked what was going on with me and my family but then I thought , well maybe I am a source of comfort and advice? This is quite empowering that I can help in a situation which is upsetting for another person and that they trust me enough to confide in? Yes! this is it! ( To ther person that this is about, you know I’m not attacking you with sharing this and no names are mentioned. I am here for you always).

9. Being more present, accountable, be there more to listen to my husband, this kids, friends.. I don’t know that this makes sense or does and that I have no reason to explain?

10. Using my summerhouse more for meditation, relation, yoga, mindfulness for both me and my daughter and maybe redesign it and make it even more welcoming. A sanctuary of light and love? I remember before I ordered it that I wanted it to feel as though it wasn’t just in my back garden but I could transport myself into that secluded forest somewhere far away.. a place of complete relaxation…

11. Stop and count my blessings.. stop thinking “if only I had more money, I could do this”  or “I wish we had a bigger house” etc etc. stop making it about “stuff” maybe reading more bout minimalism? I have much goodness in my life… and I mean things like fantastic friends, a good paying job, a roof over my head, fantastic family, we don’t go hungry and have food available. I have self…. an awareness. It’s the “stuff” that gets in the way. I know I said that I was comping but it’s just a fun thing and a hobby. I don’t care if I win or don’t win. Its all a bonus.

12. More family time. I need to make sure that we have more quality time from watching a film together , walks, cycling, museum. Something that is focused on us spending time without arguing! I have worked weekends for a while now as well as Christmas and new year , all holidays due to the nature of my job. Because of that,we ind it hard to spend time as a family without arguing because we have different parenting skills. This causes confusion for the kids and it all erupts like a volcano which isn’t good for any of us.

13. Home.. I want to go home this year… Home is Canada and with me paying off credit cards, it can’t be the top of my priority list as it defeats the purpose! So comping it is! If I could win a trip home, it would be a bonus but if I don’t, there is always next year.

So that’s it for now.. I will update my list on my next blog post.. the next 5 are going to be ones that I really want to think about.. maybe something like “read a book” or catch up on my pinterest board, see that film i have been meaning to for  months.. ?

Are you writing an 18 for 2018 list ? If so, please do share as its inspiring to read how other people are living their lives, their motivations and what they hope to achieve. Thanks for reading.

Let There Be Light

This year at Daftmamma head quarters, its all about writing more , engaging more and entering some cool competitions! I was inspired to do so on my quest to save money, clear debt and hopefully win some amazing prizes.  . So with that in mind, I came across a competition by a cool company called Urban Cottage Industries

We are hoping to achieve a lot of great things with the flat once the debt has been cleared, which really shouldn’t take that long and I have been putting together some on line boards to hep me do this.

I had a long look at what Urban Cottage Industries have on offer and I already have a pretty good idea about choices for lighting especially these for the living room

I’m a lover of all things retro and they would fit right in, they would match with our colours that we have chosen and would be great for positioning over our arm chair where I spend most of my time reading! What do you think of them?

So getting back on on point! I digress!! They are running a super cool competition for bloggers based on… LIGHTING, of course! They want us to post pics of natural light pictures as well as artificial for a chance to win a prize of £500 of Amazon vouchers to spend on photography equipment as well as prizes for runners up (how cool is that?). Here’s the link to the competition and a blurb from their site

So , with all of that info, stop reading this and get started on your own! Before you do that though, here’s MINE!

The first was taken on a rainy day up north camping and the second )another camp), but with a flash. Many happy memories and thank you for hosting such a lovely competition.

Good luck to everyone entering!

Count Down To BodyCoach

I’m planning and plotting… hoping and wishing… that things will be different this time…

What am I talking about? Fitness and weight loss! I know that they will be because I am ready to take on the challenge with the help of my friend Jo over at Mummy’sKnee (who will already be a week ahead by the time I receive my plan). We have discussed and supported one another a lot this week, positivity seeping from our pores and building a camaraderie that even Spider-Man could not penetrate!

In the picture above, you’ll see my “Fit Book”, which my husband bought for me last year and I have yet to use. I plan on using this to plan my weekly meals and chart my exercise that I will do over and above the HIT given by my BodyCoach Plan.

I did a practice run of meal prepping last wk, using some vegan recipes from one of my favourite cook books, made by “The Happy Pear“. I LOVE this cook book and I love how they started their business and healthier lifestyle. I would highly recommend it and watching their YouTube videos because some recipes are so quick and easy, not to mention nutritious!

Here are some of the meals that I made;

They helped me to balance my macros and make sure that I was getting everything that I needed nutrition wise. I didn’t find myself dipping in sugar levels and therefore I no longer needed to have the cup of coffee or chocolate biscuit in the afternoon which has been my norm for longer than I care to admit.

I am also finding that food prep makes me less inclined to crave other foods, like take aways as a treat and I don’t feel the need to say “ach, I’ll just have 1 treat night “. I don’t need to because no take away is going to measure up to homemade “fakeaways”. I don’t have that bloated feeling and I know exactly what’s going into my body, plus saving money at the same time.

So I go to bed now and eagerly await my emails coming through tomorrow… I shall dream of weights, vegetables and all things healthy! Actually, no.. I’m not that bad… yet! I just can’t wait to get the plan through!

Possibilities are Endless….

Yes, the possibilities are endless when you have PALLETS! I know sounds like a really odd statement to make but I’m really getting into this whole upcycling thing since starting the kids project and having such nice weather. They promise a summer of sun so we need to be prepared to lounge, in comfort and what better way to do that than having some nice garden furniture to do it on!

I’m no expert and you’ll probably find my “projects”, in the Pinterest category of fails but I like trying and it might mean that one day it will lead to something that resembles the pictures that I pin. I also feel relaxed when working out in the garden and its less time on-line and more time doing. I like putting on the radio and can often be found listening to the debates on BBC Radio Scotland as I potter about, doing the things I imagined that I would be when we first purchased this wee cottage flat that is our home.

Today I went to one of the industrial estates and approached a company who has pallets lying around in their yard and the man I spoke with was really enthusiastic about having these recycled and that they would be going towards a project rather than in a tip or fire. He even said that he would have one of the guys deliver them and I just needed to let him know how many I needed, and what day would suit for delivery.

My neighbour who lives downstairs is absolutely amazing when it comes to building things and last summer she built a fence using pallets. She has offered to help me this year as well and I am so pleased that we have a plan because my back garden is a riot. I have said before that I have been inspired by a certain blogger called MamaSyder and I really recommend popping over to her site, she has this amazing little retro caravan and wee summer-house that she did up in her garden. She’s very inspiring and you’ll be hooked on her ideas and how she transforms things!

So here is what I want to do first, this looks simple enough and I hope that it works out to look almost similar.


I don’t know what I will do for cushions but I had thought about getting most of them from charity shops… As for color scheme.. I do like fresh whites and deep red or even purple.  I won’t really be able to start this project for a few weeks as I will be on night shift next week and boot camp the week after (eek!).

Keep checking back on my progress and I’d love to see or hear about your pallet transformations!

Fort Transformation

Yesterday was a beautiful day, and these can few and far between in Scotland so I put the kids outside  on the trampolene and I picked up a paintbrush and started on the kids fort. I had some white paint left over from when the Husband painted their bunk bed and I really only thought that I would get one panel done so was surprised when it did the whole first coat of the front. What a difference it makes as you can see below!
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Later on, I took some bunting from last years garden decoration, to see what it would look like and although it needs a quick spin in the washing machine, I’m pleased as punch with the results. 
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As night came, I thought I would put on the old Christmas lights which I purchased with the left over money on the card that I received from B&Q and then lit the lanterns I got as a bargain from Morrisons- they were only £0.50! I’m going to go back and see if they have anymore left because they would look lovely throughout the garden. 
 
Tomorrow I have the day free and I am going to go to a carpet shop to see if they have any off cuts, and pick up some blue paint to do the porch. My daughter had requested “sky lights” for inside which hope to find some perspex in either a charity shop or in a shop quite cheap. What do you think so far? Quite a difference from what we started off with, as you can see here. I hope to have the rest of it done in a few weeks time, let me know if you have any  tips or ideas!
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