Category Archives: rants

No homework for my kids.

I’ve been reading a few blogs, interacting with people on Twitter and the latter half of this year was spent telling my daughters teacher that she would not be doing homework.

I could tell by her facial expression that she either didn’t agree or had an opinion on it but possibly didn’t want to explore that as we are given only 10mins (at max), when doing parent -teacher meetings. That in itself tells you a lot about the school curriculum in Scotland…

I know I’m probably seen as that weird trouble making parent in the playground (and to the head teacher , especially when in the past I may have told her that I’m a recovering Catholic and it’s a catholic school) who rather than fit in with the parents/carers with their matching furniture/wall paper/car etc ,sings the praises of their children almost every week via social media (when actually we know how little Betty and Tommy are just as much the shit disturber as ours can be),would much rather survive each day of parenting… Without having to pull out my hair … but to be honest  I couldn’t give a rats ass about being in the parenting “in” crowd.I haven’t for a while and that in itself is liberating. I like that I don’t have to make small talk now with folk that I really don’t have much in common with and can just pick up my child and get on with my life. Sounds harsh but I just haven’t got the time to get involved with the latest gossip.

Back to the point of this post, I digress, yes! Homework… My child went to nursery and then on to school which means that from the age of 3, she has been in the system. Ok, partly our choice as I had wanted to go back to studying again. However, it is a system that constantly tells our young people that you need to do all of these things like go to university and/or college,in order to feel like you have achieved. To use correct punctuation or people will make fun of you and they will define you as a person if you get it wrong and posts “meme’s” on Facebook so that you and your friends can collectively belittle a person to satisfy your own insecurities and ego. Seen it happen loads of time and I actually pity those who do this regularly.  Yes,I wouldlovefor my children to goto college and univerity to study if they want to and I thoroughly encourage studying as there is so much to learn in life but if they want to do something else or go into work,I won’t push them because the world adds enough pressure to our lives as it is. People define others by the job they do,house they live in,area they live,car they drive etc.. What about morals,respecting others and your own

Why does my child need to do these things in order to feel like someone who matters? Why do we have to expect them to conform? They are little beings and sometimes I feel that we have too much influence on them and we need to let them express themselves, find out who they are and to grow.  Unfortunately in our society when you do that and let them explore their personalities they can some times not be included with their peers and get treated differently by the school.

Why does this happen and why as parents do we not just say “fuck it”,?! as Fleetwood Mac says “you can go your own way”! Or do as the little bumble bee girl in the video for Blind Melon’s “No Rain” and dance in those puddles under the droplets of rain that falls from the sky! Be different, be you… Show your kids that individuality and not being the same as anyone else, is good! Embrace it! Learn from your kids and let them learn from you! I bet it’s liberating:) trying to build their confidence so that they are comfortable in a society that preys on and makes a business out of our insecurities.

This post may not make sense or cover the actual topic but I tend to go off in a tangent and not follow the rules 😉

Pontins  Southport: Health Hazard

My friends experience today…

Booked in here today and it’s absolutely disgusting. 

1. Floor filthy and full of crumbs, dirt and mess on our arrival.

2. Toilet full of faeces and stains. 

3. Shower with pubic hair

4. Pungent smell in room, found to be coming from mouldy fridge. 

5. Windows steamed up and unable to open initially.

6. Dirty underwear under bed.

7. Used condom in cupboard.

8. Swimming pool filthy and smelly 

9. Changing rooms in swimming littered with dirt, used toilet paper & sanitary items.

10. Outside area littered with rubbish, food & general mess.

11. Sofa bed in room disgusting,stained & smelly.

12. Sofa bed collapsed when my daughter sat on it. She sustained a significant head injury when she bumped it on the wall. 
I went to reception twice to complain about the dirty room & the pungent smell from the fridge and both matters were dealt with appropriately.

However, while waiting in the staff arriving, I spent 30 minutes cleaning it and £8 in cleaning materials. 

The collapsed bed was “repaired” immediately, however i waited 30 minutes in the room for a manager who failed to turn up. After seeking him out in reception, he didn’t even have the decency to apologise for not turning up to discuss my issues & was frankly unhelpful, advising that he could not refund me or move our room. He actually seemed to find the whip situation amusing. 

I expect a full refund and monetary compensation for this awful experience.  

Due to concerns for my health of my family I cannot stay here here any longer as i fear my health and the health of my family. 

Incidentally, my daughter has an auto immune disorder which makes her susceptible to infection and this makes this situation even more horrific. 

I look forward to your immediate reply.

Sainsburys Homophobic ?

  
I shop in Sainsburys, frequently tweet with them, bring my kids into their supermarket – we even purchased my daughters teachers end of year gift.

Today, I was browsing through Facebook and I saw this picture and headline. With so much homophobia and racism in the world, was I shocked? No , not really but more disappointed and sad that such a trustworthy and family orientated “brand”, woul make a decision such as this.

Why do you think that it’s ok to showcase magazines with headlines that stereotype women and men and our gender roles but try to “cover up”, and insinuate or shame, the gay /transgender etc, community? Do you not know that you are adding to and making it an issue by doing this and not letting people live their lives and be who they are?

Who are you to decide what is acceptable and what is not? You sold the Sun Newspaper which had a naked woman in it for the world to see. It showed women as sexual objects and you helped to contribute to an existing and continuous problem which is commercial sexual exploitation. Yet you think it’s you’re right to make a decision not to show a natural, normal, magazine because you think it may offend? 

I think I’ll be shopping elsewhere and I’d like to say how proud I am that places such as WH Smith, have displayed these magazines as they should be and without question. 

I think we should go into our local stores and see if all have covered up Attitude magazine,take pictures and boycott! 

The Sun Newspaper,An Open Letter

Dear -Fill in the blank,

One of your journalists approached me a few months back when I was on a 2 day break with my kids and cousins,via email with the subject of “Will you talk to me”. Now, I’m sure I can be forgiven for thinking that this was junk mail and to be honest, I should have deleted it and sent it to the trash where it quite rightly belonged but I didn’t. Instead, I engaged in a lengthly conversation about my experience with Post natal depression – and against my better judgement (as I had a feeling and a “niggle”) telling me not continue or share ,but oh boy, I sure did. See,that’s what some journalists feed on .. a person’s vulnerability and/or the need to want to help people and break down stigma , that they are willing to let you in to their thoughts and feelings, to tell the story of how they nearly god damn died because of what was going on.

I have been blogging and talking about my journey for many years and until recently, I didn’t have it in me for fear of judgement, to talk about and admit to the termination that I had. Due to shame and regret? Possibly and most probably but I was told that it would help other women. You got me hook,line and sinker. Silly ,me I guess.  Now, it is true that I had told this story to an amazing woman in a previous publication(so as your title suggested, it wasn’t an exclusive) a few weeks prior to but the Sun is much closer to home and I know that the chance of people I know reading it was more likely than the other.

When I received an email to tell me that it had been published, I was away at a residential bootcamp and had no coverage apart from wifi at certain times of the day.  Imagine my shock when I opened this.


My stomach sank and I was nearly sick. I have never ever been made to feel the way I felt on day of publication.  I couldn’t read the whole thing due to tears streaming down my face and the bile rising in my throat from my stomach. Over dramatic enough for you? Well unfortunately its all true which is more than I can say for your headline which I was told wasn’t written by the journalist who spoke to me- despite only her name being on the article.

I want to ask one thing… The headline talks about how I “aborted my healthy baby”. How do you know that this baby was healthy or not? How do you think that impacts a mother on the brink of suicide, making such a difficult decision , who thinks that she’s murdering her baby? Because i’ll tell you this, I was at that stage in my life and I fought so fucking hard to get through it all and I did. It was my husband, my daughter, my cousin,uncle and close friends who helped. Your paper hides behind the guise of wanting to help and share these stories but it is YOUR paper that adds to the stigma when you print headlines like that and take advantage of people like me.  You did real good though.. I like to think that I’m intelligent,worldly and educated pretty well….Maybe not.

When I tried contacting the journalist, she wasn’t in the office but her boss was. he didn’t reply until I sent two other emails and her dismissive attitude was a  further kick in the stomach.  I responded to her mail but I haven’t had a reply back so I am reponding to a few points via this open letter  Number 1. Apparently, “Sometimes seeing your story in print can be painful”- ahh , yes especially when it’s sensationalised. which leaves me to point 2.  questioning ethics…”Headlines are meant to grab attention” at the risk of someones mental health? Really, you want to go there? 3.The Scottish Sun has tackled many sensitive subjects without complaint – lies. Ask blogger @TheRealSupermum and the doozy which was done on her.

I vowed after this “story” was published( which some of it appears to have been taken from a certain other publication, tut tut)that I would never share anything again but I looked back at some of the old emails,texts and comments on my blog of support, and thought about why I started writing and share my story in the first palce. The conclusion that I came to was my need to let women (and men) who make difficult decisions every day or go through PND,Prenatal depression or depression as a whole, that they aren’t alone,there is support and no one needs to feel shame. You won’t destroy that because I won’t let you.  Your “rag” of a newspaper is thought less of than I am. The only one who should feel shame, is you.

Regards

Angeline Brunel Dickson

The Bikini Advert & Social Media

I woke up this morning to this on my twitter feed, regarding the Protein World advert. 

 

I challenged it and naively thought that the London based agency would come back with some sort of debate which I enjoy , but instead they came back with the following … 

   
 I do believe that they are riding on the coat tails of previous controversy because I don’t believe for a minute, that one company can be so stupid and ill informed. At least, for their clients sake, I hope not.

The words that they use such as “chubby girls”, just adds to the fat shaming society that we live in and which continues to grow with ads like those and agencies such as this one who all of a sudden no longer have a web site up and running.

Do they really believe what they say or are they trying to do a Katie Hopkins and just ride on the back of bad publicity? I don’t think they they even know as my tweets have gone unanswered. Sigh.
Update: they started a new account to tell me this…  Nice.

 

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